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This is it, then.

A fair amount has happened in the month since my last post. I had intended to keep this blog bang up to date (best laid plans, and all that..!) but when it came to it, I really struggled to find the words to describe how I was feeling. It took me about a week and a half to really process what happened at panel, and even after that it just didn't seem real. Husband and I pretty much just carried on as normal, as if even mentioning our forthcoming introductions might somehow jinx them..!

I'll go back a little way to bring you up to date. Our panel was amazing - so unlike what I expected; friendly, supportive, and a really positive and affirming experience. They were trying a new thing, where the potential adopters attend the whole panel meeting (unlike our approval panel, where most of the questions were directed at our social worker and we just came in at the end) so we were in there right from the start and made to feel a real part of the decision. The panel chair who came out…

Thank you!

I would just like to take a quick time out from the work I am procrastinating from doing, and say thank you to everyone for all your messages of love and support. I can't tell you how much of a difference it makes even to have someone just send a 'thinking of you' message after reading one of the posts. Don't worry if you don't know what to say - there really isn't much you can say really, but it makes such a difference (particularly at emotional / stressful times... which is all of it to be honest) to know that there are people out there thinking of us, and rooting for us.

Quick update on next steps as some people have been asking:

We have our matching panel on 6th November. Panel will interview our social worker, Tickle's social worker and family finder, and us, and make a decision whether they recommend us to be matched or not. It is possible for them to say no, but it's not very likely and they'd have to have a *really* good reason - and if the …

Many, many, updates.

Oh my goodness. I've just looked back at my last blog post and realised quite how much has happened since the last time I wrote anything. Blogs are funny like that - in the early days I found myself wanting to post multiple times a day, I had so much *stuff* that I wanted to get out, and I found writing really therapeutic. Nowadays it's more about updating the family and friends who are following our journey, and to be honest I'm just too blimmin BUSY right now to have time to sit down and write a decent post!

However this evening I need some therapeutic writing. But I'm going to update you all first so you know where we're at.

Any of you who have been following our adoption saga on Facebook will probably know that everything has been moved forwards, so that our panel is now at the start of November, with introductions starting some time around my birthday (yay!) and the plan is for Tickle to move in with us around the start of December. We are absolutely over the …

Approval

Two days ago we went to Adoption Panel, and were relieved to have their recommendation for approval - once the decision is ratified by the official agency decision maker, then we will be fully approved adopters!

It's been a tough journey so far, and although I have a feeling that the hard work is really only just about to begin, it's worth a little look back before we move on.

The reason this blog has been so quiet for the last couple of months is because we hit a big stumbling block about 6 weeks ago. Last time I posted we had just been to the final day of the prep groups, which, if you have been reading regularly, you will know were difficult. I thought that we had put all the problems behind us - we'd had the meeting with the social workers, talked through the issues, and I had very carefully kept myself to myself on Day 4 - so as not to be at risk of offending anyone, and so I could feel comfortable in my own self about attending the day with the social workers who had…